How often do you know the whole truth of a situation, seeing the whole picture in your own mind?
How often do you exclaim “Why he’s so ‘stupid’ and can’t see the whole truth?” when you watch movie or soap opera or the like?
Since schooling time, we always hear people say “Don’t judge a book by its cover”. Perhaps with little life experience during that time, we might not get the whole point. When we started to step into the real society and growing with it, we will begin to understand the significance behind this phrase. A humble-looking person may turn out to be the traitor… An evil-looking person may turn out to be the kind-hearted one…When there is no absolute right and absolute wrong…
Just like what the Hong Kong TVB series “The Other Truth” (真相), featuring Tavia Yeung (楊怡), Wong Ho Yin (黃浩然), Chan Chin Pang (陳展鵬) and Yuen Shiu Cheung (阮兆祥), is depicting.
The reality is, we are not given the observer position in real life compared with on screen where the whole story unfolds before our eyes. We, human being, are confined within our own perspective and perception. We are no God, as even the most observant one could not possibly know everything, including what’s really on the mind of others.
We need to really look into all the ‘evidences’ available before starting to make judgement. But even with the evidences, will we overlook some important points that will change black to white or vice-versa? As we human have the ability to cover-up our emotions and true self, one may overlook the mind of others. We won’t know what’s going on in others’ mind unless he or she is willing to open up.
Be the RIGHT one or Be the Winner
Coach Jaq asked me last week whether I want to be the right one or the winner. Without hesitation, I answered “The winner”. A winner is the one who is always on the go in finding the best solution(s) to any issue that arises.
How often do you think that you are the right one and the other person is the wrong one? It is human natural characteristic due to our limited perspective.
Sometimes, we can be right one and the wrong one at the same time. Why is this so? Recently, I’ve heard a story from both sides of the people involved. Both are holding prejudice towards each other. From my perspective based on available evidences, both may be right and wrong at the same time.
Imagine this situation: “A” gets angry with “B” because “A” is not satisfied with the work quality produced by “B”. “B” feels angry too because she feels that “A” is holding grudges on her. This is considered a common issue, even between classmates at school (for group project).
So, how does this problem can be resolved through the Winner?
- Can both of them sit down together and find out the best solution to the problem, compromising each other? The answer can be “yes” and “no” because it is difficult to change others unless the other one is willing to accept the criticism and feedback (from someone more experienced and senior) and really learn from the mistakes by taking the necessary actions. Instead of compromising for win-win situation, it may end up as an argument, even a heated one in serious cases.
- Can we change our perspective and mindset to embrace the whole situation? Yes, definitely. By seeing through our own self, be honest and have a moment of self-reflection now and then, we will be able to think clearer, feel better, and take better action. The situation will eventually dissolve naturally when it strikes a chord.
This is definitely not an easy task to handle because we are too confined within our little world which has been defined since the day we were born, influenced by our upbringing, education and social life. It is always good to find a mentor or someone who can really give practical advice when you need it most.
Be your own winner of your own life.
*Love and Hope for better tomorrow*
~Si3wLiNg~
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